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Did you ever have one of those moments when you accomplished something that you were really proud of and excited over, but no one else seemed to be?

You know, the moments when you can’t wait to rush out and tell everyone you know and love what just happened. Then when you do, everyone around you just seems to shrug it off with a, “That’s nice” or a causally unimpressed and insincere, “Good job” as they walk away.

Well, a few weeks back I had one of those moments. You see, I had just received very positive feedback on a project that I worked long and hard on. A project that not only challenged me mentally, but emotionally as well. One of those projects we all come across now and then that is a real gut-check to reveal what we are made of. You know the kind- the type of projects that outwardly and mentally everyone ‘knows’ we can handle, but inside we question ourselves¬†if we can¬†do it. Yes, one of those beauties.

So after weeks of intense study, work, and preparation, the project was delivered on-time and with a greater return than anyone involved expected. It was a BIG success for me not only professionally, but personally as well; I was feeling great.¬†So what do we¬†do when we’re¬†happy? We share it with others, right? So I did.

What happened next boggled my mind for days, caused me to really examine myself and the situation, and I learned a valuable life lesson that day that I am about to share with you. Maybe you learned this lesson years ago, or maybe you’re like me and heard the words, knew it was true, but it hasn’t ‘sunk in’ yet. Either way, I hope this story helps it to ‘sink in’ for you too or at least have a good laugh at my expense.


The Situation

So like I said above, on this day I had just received news of what I perceived as a BIG accomplishment and shared this with those around me. They did not seem impressed in the least. In fact, they were so disinterested it appeared¬†that I brought up the subject matter again a few minutes later in an attempt to get positive feedback/praise (I know, pitiful isn’t it? We’ve all been there though. Don’t act like you haven’t done it too ;0).

Now seemingly bothered, they stopped their conversation, looked at me like I was being ridiculous, and said, “Good job Dave. We knew you would do it. We didn’t expect anything less.” Then they turned their heads and went back on with their discussion.¬†As I walked away from the group, I was totally conflicted, annoyed, and confused-all at the same time. “How should I feel?” I asked myself. “What’s going on here? Don’t they see what we were just able to do? Am I making too much of this? Ahhh!” all raced through my mind in a split second of frustration.

How could they act so causally? I mean, to me and the party involved this was a really BIG deal. The project challenged me in areas that I wasn’t confident in myself. A personal victory far beyond a professional win. Yet at the same time, I should be happy right? I mean, think about it. They had such total confidence in me that they never questioned my performance and ability to complete the task for a second. So much confidence in fact that failure never even crossed their minds.

The question at hand then, Should I be happy for such a loving team and tribe that believes in me so much? or, Should I be angry that they didn’t acknowledge my personal triumph? Again, “Ahhh!”

Before we answer that question, it gets worse for me.


The Table of Revelation

So about an hour later, after sulking internally to myself and pouting on the inside,¬†I was asked to complete¬†a simple manual labor task by the end of the day. It was to find someone to help me move a table down a set of stairs and into a storage room. Again, nothing earth shattering, just get’er done type of stuff that we all pitch in to handle sometimes. The stuff that no one gets glory over, no pay grade is too high or low, just the small projects of life that need to be done so progress can happen.

Already feeling low and unmotivated, I went over to look at the table to see what would need to be done in order to move it later in the day. When I got there, it seemed to me that if I held it just right I could lift it myself, carry it down the stairs, and knock this simple task out without having to bother anyone else or keep thinking about it. So I did.

First I moved the table top, then the base, then the chairs that surrounded it. Five minutes later- done. Without even thinking twice about it, I walked back in the room where everyone was still conversing and asked if anything else¬†needed to be done before we left.¬†They all stopped their conversation again, but this time looked at me with an expression I will never forget. They were like, “What?! You already moved that table? Who helped you? How did you do it so fast? Are you ok? That’s amazing!” ¬†I mean, they acted like I just broke an Olympic record that stood for 100 years¬†or I saved someones live by successfully performing brain surgery with a butter knife and some dental floss. It was crazy!!


The Take-Away

After reassuring myself that I wasn’t loosing my mind, in a dream, or in the Twilight Zone, I thought long and hard about what just happened. It boggled my mind that I could complete a task with such great value and receive little-to-no praise. Yet I complete a task that has little value, one that almost anyone with arms and legs could complete, and people go crazy with excitement. Leading me to the conclusion:

Opinions are like armpits, everyone has them and most of them stink! – unknown

Yes, that’s right. While their is much wisdom in counsel, strength in numbers, and comfort in good friends, at the end of the day I realized that there are very few opinions that matter. People will¬†perceive¬†things, whether we like it or not, through their own filter- clean or crazy.

Based on that truth, here is the list and priority order of whose opinions matter most to me that I came up with after that strange day:

  1. God’s. More than anyone else opinion, even my own, He is the one I want to please most. When I face Him someday soon, I want to be unashamed.
  2. My Own.¬†Everyone else goes home at the end of the day. I’m the guy that I have to live with 24/7/365. When I look in the mirror, I need to be proud of myself and know I’ve done my best, and accept my best.
  3. My¬†Wife’s.¬†She loves me, supports me, counts on me, and is by my side everyday. She deserves to have a husband that takes care of her that she can find security in and be proud of.
  4. My¬†Children’s. Kids look up to their parents, good or bad. Even in the worst of relationships, everyone deep down longs to win the approval of their parents. My children are amazing, special, and look to me as a living example of how they should be. Words go inches, but actions go miles. I need to¬†be¬†the man they can look up to and be proud of. Someone who reflects Christs love and motivates them to do likewise.
  5. My Client’s/Employers.¬†My personal goal in business is to not just win clients, but life-long friends. People¬†trust me enough to hire me and I don’t want to let them down. My heart is to exceed their expectations so far that they know I’m legit, care about them personally (not just their money), and build a trusting friendship for years to come.
  6. Everyone Else.¬†If you know me personally, you know I love people. However, this lesson really taught me that no matter how hard I try, I can’t please everyone. Saying that, I’m going to do my best to please the above list; anyone after that is a blessing and icing on the cake.


Well, that’s my crazy story and lesson for the day. Hope you enjoyed it, can relate, and it helped you too to see that as long as we are doing our best each day, it ¬†doesn’t really matter what ‘most people’ think. It only matters what You and ‘your people’ think.


What Lesson did You Learn?

Is there a life lesson or story that this article reminded you of that we can all glean from? If so, please comment below or send me an email. I’d love to learn from you and hear how God is working in your life.


Have a truly great week, thanks again for spending part of your day with us today, and I look forward to hearing from you soon and helping one another Ascend!

David Pasqualone


Helpful Resources

Scripture to Consider:

  • Proverbs 11:14
  • I Samuel 16:7
  • Ecclesiastes 4:12
  • John 15;13-15
  • James 2:23


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